My first husband passed in 2005 after 8 mos. from date of diagnosis. He was only 52 and I was a widow at 47. If I were to give advice or tell you what I might have done differently afterwards, it would be to grieve as you must but don't isolate yourself too much. If someone invites you over or on an outing, even if you're not feeling up to it, go make the best of it and enjoy yourself because you can always get back to a grieving state. It's healthy to take a break from it whenever possible. And if you're not invited out, then invite people in.