I retired from weddings last August which was my final wedding after 40 years. In all that time I have never taken a full list of photographs from a bride. I did however take note of any special requests of maybe the couples sports friends, University pals or if great Aunt Maude who is 80 and was flying in from Australia. I didn't need a list that states things like Bride and Groom with Bridesmaids.
In my opinion it looks totally amateurish consulting a list, people will think you have no idea what you're doing and have nil experience. Plus it leaves you wide open for the complaints to pour in afterwards with demands for refunds for not doing what you were asked to do if you miss or overlook something. Its surprising how many people overspend and see the photographer as a way of recovering some of those costs as their guests will of no doubt in this day and age, copied your arrangements with iphones etc and the couple will be more than happy to have those free afterwards.
I have declined any booking with those that entered my studio to view my work, loved it and then try to give me a list to deviate from what I do best and that is to photograph their wedding as a unique and one off event which will be totally different from my last one and totally different from my next one. Every wedding is different and working from a script is merely taking photographs at a wedding instead of photographing the wedding.
Did you read the first post in this thread? I'm guessing, not.