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Snow White
I've been on this forum since it started back in 2010. I like it as much today as I did then because of the atmosphere and the many members who genuinely care about one another. That's what makes this place a community, and not just another forum.
There are many forums out there. Some are rigid with very little deviation from the rules, others are poorly organized "free-for-alls." Nikonites tries to balance freedom and friendly atmosphere with expectations for respectful behavior.
Sadly, internet behavior seems to mirror the lack of etiquette and common courtesy that is increasingly prevalent in our society today, and it's especially true on forums.
Some time ago here we had a discussion about civility and one of our members made an astute analogy to a dinner party. I think it's worthy of an elaboration so that everyone has an idea of what sometimes goes on behind the scenes.
If you think of this forum, Nikonites, as a "dinner/banquet", JDEG, as the administrator/owner of the forum, is the host of the banquet. Each of us mods is here to make sure that all the guests are having a pleasant experience since he can't be everywhere at the same time. But he sets the tone for the dinner party . . . civility and good manners, sharing and fun, joking as long as it's not offensive, and respectable behavior. Being a mod has nothing to do with power, and everything to do with being a participant in this "dinner party." I, personally, don't want to be at a dinner where guests are allowed to double-dip, pick their noses at the table, burp, fart or sneeze while going through the buffet, or use their fingers (which could have been in their noses or worse!) to rummage through a dish to pick out a tasty morsel as they then pass the dish to next person. A host with any class would care too much about his guests to expose them to such behavior.
While everyone is invited and welcome, some guests in the past have been asked to leave the Nikonites "dinner party" because of a persistent lack of decorum, despite the efforts of the host or hostess to privately correct the behavior.
· comes with no food to contribute to the dinner but goes around and criticizes every other dish on the buffet and berates all cooks except himself. Continues to declare how the world thinks he is a fabulous chef and refers to his many cook books that seem to be non-existent, or at least invisible.
· repeatedly shows up drunk at the dinners, makes incoherent comments and stalks other members until they never return to the dinner party.
· attends three dinner parties and then proceeds to tell the host that he's doing it all wrong. Insists via ultimatums that things be done his way.
· "double-dips" in the salsa (takes a bite of a chip and then dips it back in the salsa). When asked by the host or hostess to not do that, responds with "You're kidding, right? Get a life!"
· Attends every dinner party, deliberately brings food that doesn't fit with the theme of the menu which the host graciously overlooks, interrupts private conversations, and meanwhile hosts and recruits for his own "bar party" (where any kind of behavior goes) just so he can trash the dinner party he just came from and where he was a welcomed guest.
Most of the attempts to ameliorate the offensive behavior takes place behind the scenes . . . the hosts and hostesses try to shield the other dinner guests. Eventually, the offending guests are asked to leave so that the other guests can continue to have a nice experience at the Nikonites "dinner party."
So, thank you to the 99 percent of our members who are gracious at our "dinner party", bring a food dish to share and engage in cordial conversations with the other guests without buying into the drama of the trolls or "forum sociopaths." Your classy behavior keeps our "dinner party" a happy and wholesome experience.
A little bit of class and decorum go a long way. . . not because we're trying to be "high class snobs," but because of respect for one another, and the belief that there is a place where simple courtesy is still valued and appreciated. It would behoove us all to remember that we are guests, not just at the Nikonites forum, but on this planet. Maybe the world would be in better shape if we did.