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<blockquote data-quote="Pretzel" data-source="post: 321570" data-attributes="member: 12257">Definitely a horrid story, with a horrid result...&nbsp; hopefully not money out the window, as I'm hoping there was a contract involved?&nbsp; I'd hate to think she's gonna keep all that money, or even try to charge them for her &quot;supposed attempts&quot; to recover the pictures.&nbsp; Glad you were there to capture some memories for them!!!I do portraits on the side, folks love 'em, and I get asked quite often, &quot;Hey, will you shoot our wedding?&quot;&nbsp; My answer...&nbsp; &quot;NO!&nbsp; But let me get you the contact info for a couple of people I know and trust!&quot;&nbsp; Of course, they're always put off by the price of a professional wedding photographer, and always come back asking if I can just help out as a favor.&nbsp; And I say...&nbsp; &quot;NO!&quot;&nbsp; Like you, I'll go into &quot;snapshot&quot; mode for friends and loved ones, to help add to the memories, but &quot;no thanks&quot; for being the main, and if there is NO main?&nbsp; I don't &quot;snapshot&quot;, either, because I know it's a way to wheedle me into being the main.Cold?&nbsp; Heartless?&nbsp; Downright mean? Nope...&nbsp; I just don't want to be the cause of tears in a new bride's eyes should something like this occur.&nbsp; (exception: if it's a family that really has NO WAY to afford the cost of a photographer in any way, shape or form, I've been known to shoot, regardless)&nbsp; I *HAVE* worked as a 2nd shooter a couple of times, and I've seen the stress the main wedding photog's go through too.&nbsp; Not worth it, especially when it's not my career.I've also been known to be VERY ADAMANT in my encouragement to avoid &quot;budget friendly&quot; wedding photog's for all of the reasons you listed in the above tale.&nbsp; I even told one family to spend the $400.00 they were going to offer a &quot;friend of a friend&quot; on disposable cameras instead, and let all their close friends and family be the photographers.&nbsp; I told 'em they'd probably get better pics, sooner, and taken with more feeling than some guy who wants to see if he can pull this off.Yada, yada...&nbsp; I ramble.Tell your nephew I'm so sorry for all the troubles he's gone through.&nbsp; I can't even begin to imagine how his bride must be reacting...</blockquote>

[QUOTE="Pretzel, post: 321570, member: 12257"] Definitely a horrid story, with a horrid result... hopefully not money out the window, as I'm hoping there was a contract involved? I'd hate to think she's gonna keep all that money, or even try to charge them for her "supposed attempts" to recover the pictures. Glad you were there to capture some memories for them!!! I do portraits on the side, folks love 'em, and I get asked quite often, "Hey, will you shoot our wedding?" My answer... "NO! But let me get you the contact info for a couple of people I know and trust!" Of course, they're always put off by the price of a professional wedding photographer, and always come back asking if I can just help out as a favor. And I say... "NO!" Like you, I'll go into "snapshot" mode for friends and loved ones, to help add to the memories, but "no thanks" for being the main, and if there is NO main? I don't "snapshot", either, because I know it's a way to wheedle me into being the main. Cold? Heartless? Downright mean? Nope... I just don't want to be the cause of tears in a new bride's eyes should something like this occur. (exception: if it's a family that really has NO WAY to afford the cost of a photographer in any way, shape or form, I've been known to shoot, regardless) I *HAVE* worked as a 2nd shooter a couple of times, and I've seen the stress the main wedding photog's go through too. Not worth it, especially when it's not my career. I've also been known to be VERY ADAMANT in my encouragement to avoid "budget friendly" wedding photog's for all of the reasons you listed in the above tale. I even told one family to spend the $400.00 they were going to offer a "friend of a friend" on disposable cameras instead, and let all their close friends and family be the photographers. I told 'em they'd probably get better pics, sooner, and taken with more feeling than some guy who wants to see if he can pull this off. Yada, yada... I ramble. Tell your nephew I'm so sorry for all the troubles he's gone through. I can't even begin to imagine how his bride must be reacting... [/QUOTE]

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