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Really awful news has been delivered to my wife and I
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<blockquote data-quote="hark" data-source="post: 536851" data-attributes="member: 13196"><p>I don't think anyone here doubts you are struggling with grief. The problem is some people don't know what to say in situations such as this, but please don't think people's silence means they don't care. </p><p></p><p>Grief alone is a very heavy burden to carry. Coupled with the financial problems, most likely you are overwhelmed...and depressed Again, it is understandable; however, you need to see yourself as being a valuable person. After all, Anice found value in you, didn't she?! And you thought the world of her, right? So her opinion of you holds a lot of weight, Bill. Perhaps you don't value yourself as much as she valued you, but obviously she saw a great deal of worth in you as a person. </p><p></p><p>So besides getting in touch with the people I mentioned in my last post, I want you to do something, Bill. Go and open up your camera bag and look at all your gear! I want you to pick one item...whether it is a camera body, lens, bag, or whatever. Now go back in your memory to when you first acquired that item. What I want you to do is to feel the joy you felt when you bought that item. Think about how you were going to use that item and the happiness you felt when you opened the package and held it for the first time. <strong>What I want you to do is to get into the state of mind you were in when you first received that item. Feeling some joy, even though it won't be a lot and won't last long, is very important.</strong> You may have made promises to Anice, and you want to honor those promises. You need to periodically pull yourself out of feeling despair and grief even for a few minutes a day. It's okay to smile for a few moments. </p><p></p><p>To be clear on the tax comment, usually homes are taxed yearly for property and school taxes. You need to find out if they are payable annually or bi-annually. Up here they fall due at two different times of the year. Just want to be sure you are covered, Bill. I wan't talking about income tax day (April 15th), or taxes associated with it.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="hark, post: 536851, member: 13196"] I don't think anyone here doubts you are struggling with grief. The problem is some people don't know what to say in situations such as this, but please don't think people's silence means they don't care. Grief alone is a very heavy burden to carry. Coupled with the financial problems, most likely you are overwhelmed...and depressed Again, it is understandable; however, you need to see yourself as being a valuable person. After all, Anice found value in you, didn't she?! And you thought the world of her, right? So her opinion of you holds a lot of weight, Bill. Perhaps you don't value yourself as much as she valued you, but obviously she saw a great deal of worth in you as a person. So besides getting in touch with the people I mentioned in my last post, I want you to do something, Bill. Go and open up your camera bag and look at all your gear! I want you to pick one item...whether it is a camera body, lens, bag, or whatever. Now go back in your memory to when you first acquired that item. What I want you to do is to feel the joy you felt when you bought that item. Think about how you were going to use that item and the happiness you felt when you opened the package and held it for the first time. [B]What I want you to do is to get into the state of mind you were in when you first received that item. Feeling some joy, even though it won't be a lot and won't last long, is very important.[/B] You may have made promises to Anice, and you want to honor those promises. You need to periodically pull yourself out of feeling despair and grief even for a few minutes a day. It's okay to smile for a few moments. To be clear on the tax comment, usually homes are taxed yearly for property and school taxes. You need to find out if they are payable annually or bi-annually. Up here they fall due at two different times of the year. Just want to be sure you are covered, Bill. I wan't talking about income tax day (April 15th), or taxes associated with it. [/QUOTE]
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