Mothers of the Bride

After quitting shooting wedding decades ago and being roped into shooting 1 more this weekend I finally remember why I decided to never shoot another wedding.

Mother of the Bride.

I am shooting this at the request of my son and his bride to be. I am not charging anything to anyone for the wedding shoot and photos so I thought it would be different. I could shoot what and how I want and not have to listen to anyone other then the Bride. First the mother sends me a schedule of how and when I would be shooting everything on Saturday without ever asking how mush time I would need. I rewrote the schedule and sent it back. I shot some photos for the bride a couple of weeks ago and picked the one I liked and did all the work to get it just like I wanted it. The mother sends a message to my wife telling her that she wants to see all the ones I shot so she can pick the one she wants. I would never show anyone all the photos I shoot and let them pick. Maybe a few and let them pick between them but that would be a paying client.

Through venting now.

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I agree !! Its the one thing I am dreading with getting into the wedding side.

I agree though that I would never let them look at my images until I was happy to hand them over, I had a client that I shot his mum and dads 60th wedding anniversary and he wanted everything, even the unedited images I wasnt happy to deliver and I had to tell him straight they aren't what you have paid for...

Lol, thanks for the reminder Don! I'll say a prayer for you

This is why I always tell people. I am retired and only shoot what the hell I want to shoot.

Originally Posted by Marcel

Now a little white lie doesn't hurt sometimes. I would just show them the ones that I want and tell them that a lot were missed, blurred, washed out, too dark, whatever comes to you at the time. But, NEVER, NEVER, NEVER agree to give them all the unprocessed images. If you feel like it and can stand them around you, you might let them see them on your computer screen, but I would never let them leave my house with unprocessed shots.

I guess that since this is family to you now, you might have to compromise a bit, so I'll pray for you too.

Never been one to compromise to much. I might do one or two more and tell them this it their choices. I did not get along with my mother in law and I doubt my son is going to get along with his. I was lucky though mine did not live close so I did not have to see her for 10 years. My son's lives locally

I never shoot anything (one) that talks, much nicer.

In all the years my late wife did weddings she only had one problem wedding,the brides mother kicked of about the images,we couldn't pin her down as to what the problem was,eventually she told us.

You have made my daughter look like a ginger Tart (uk for slapper,whore,or what you like)

What can you say

Originally Posted by mikew

In all the years my late wife did weddings she only had one problem wedding,the brides mother kicked of about the images,we couldn't pin her down as to what the problem was,eventually she told us.

You have made my daughter look like a ginger Tart (uk for slapper,whore,or what you like)

What can you say

You tell her "No, she looked that way on her own!"

WM

Originally Posted by Whiskeyman

You tell her "No, she looked that way on her own!"

WM

My wife was just too nice to do that,and i wasn't allowed to