rocketman122
Senior Member
I shot a wedding yesterday as a freelance for another photog. started doing the family formals, late of course because people have a hard time sticking to a schedule when they have two planners helping them as well.
anyways. I come to shoot the BG with 4 parents and got the memo late that the bride is hiding for her entrance only when the ceremony starts. family formals will be right after the ceremony.
so do other variations. this with that, that with this, these with them etc.
but I am not happy. I know the pictures are not complete and I have a lot of missing holes in the list in my head. I will have to setup my flashes/umbrellas again. it takes a few minutes but I need time to set it up. thats why there is a schedule. there are set times to do certain things. people need to stick by these. you have X amount of time for a wedding and youre supposed to shoot specific things in that time. when people dont stick by the schedule and are late you miss the time allocated for those specific shots and this becomes a snowball effect.
I shoot the ceremony, everyone comes and kisses/hugs the BG mazal tov and all that bS. I wait patiently. when most have gone to sit at the tables, I set up my flashes/stands umbrellas. family is there and the other photog(im working for) says "OK were ready to do the family formals" "no not now" was what the bride says and everyone agrees. the photog tries to convince her to do it now and not after dancing because they will be sweaty and no makeup and wont be at their best. no, not now. I told the photog im pissed and I will now have to setup my gear a 3rd time and im not happy at all. he says. ok, not much we can do.
first break kicks in, family pictures? no. table shots, no. and yes. basically follow them while they walk to the guests at the tables and shoot them as they are. ok, did that.
with two dummy planners working together there was more chaos then without them. I blame them and only them for not being stern enough with the couple and guiding them and sticking by the preset schedule.
end of the night comes and most have left. I see most of the family members not dancing and sitting at the tables. I said two parents and walked over and asked if the other two parents are still there. its happened that the parents leave early sometimes because the dancing at weddings does continue to 2am+ at times. they said yes. I asked how about family pictures...? they said yea why not. like theyre doing me a favor.
So I went to the bphotog and told him im trying to convince them to do the family formals and I told him if they agree, you will help with carrying the umbrellas. because I wanted to take them back to the spot that was nicer and not do it on the dance floor. he says "eh who cares. shoot it with your flash on camera and be done with it. and it fired me up even more. the family doesnt give a S*** and the photog himself doesnt give a S*** to fight to hae it done the best we can.
what pisses me off is that I get so flustered and pissed to fight for them to have great family formals (imo family formals, and ceremony are the most important) and they dont give a crap.so the other photog amongst many others ive worked with have a different attitude. theyre mindset is "if they dont want, who cares. you shouldnt care either" and thats the problem here. seems to be today that its ok to be mediocre. I notice it all the time people try strengthen one another with " its ok to be you. you dont have to be the best or stand out, be who you are, dont be the best" and me having high work ethics cant do the who gives a s*** attitude. im built inside to try and do the best I can. maybe not to be the best but to at least try to do the best I can under the circumstances. and these pros who are supposed to be elite have the who gives a crap attitude.
at the end, I simply bounced two flashes on light stand w/slaves off the ceiling down for a soft blanket of light and used my on camera Sb900 as well bounced up. I shot group shots and was done with it. I was so pissed at the end of the day. the videographer and photog both left before me because they didnt have off camera lights and other gear to put in their bags. I use a lot more gear then them. the other photog shot with 1 camera 16-35 2.8 and 70-200 2.8 the whole wedding. nothing else. I had a wedding when the family came really late. they had a lot of missing family pictures brothers, grandma/pa and others. the videographer says what do you care. you come to get your money and go home. let the photog deal with the headache. so I said to him "Unlike you, I have very high work ethics, youre mediocre is ok mindset is not the same as mine" I dont care abotu the photographers I work for or the couple themselves so much. much more so is the problem for me personally, inside, that I went home and did a kick A** job. im my worst critic. if im not happy, no one will make me happy.
I packed up and when walking out, the family said thank you for everything, goodbye and I nodded and walked out. I didnt say a word didnt shake anyones hand. I had a very sad mood I could not focus on driving at all. all day I think about it.
they invite quality photographers and dont trust them to do whats best for them, no planning, no organizing. they dont allow me to show my talent. I cannot be mediocre and with the eh, who gives a crap attitude and when someone doesnt allow me to work it really brings me down. I go home feeling with this restless feel of no content.
anyways. I come to shoot the BG with 4 parents and got the memo late that the bride is hiding for her entrance only when the ceremony starts. family formals will be right after the ceremony.
so do other variations. this with that, that with this, these with them etc.
but I am not happy. I know the pictures are not complete and I have a lot of missing holes in the list in my head. I will have to setup my flashes/umbrellas again. it takes a few minutes but I need time to set it up. thats why there is a schedule. there are set times to do certain things. people need to stick by these. you have X amount of time for a wedding and youre supposed to shoot specific things in that time. when people dont stick by the schedule and are late you miss the time allocated for those specific shots and this becomes a snowball effect.
I shoot the ceremony, everyone comes and kisses/hugs the BG mazal tov and all that bS. I wait patiently. when most have gone to sit at the tables, I set up my flashes/stands umbrellas. family is there and the other photog(im working for) says "OK were ready to do the family formals" "no not now" was what the bride says and everyone agrees. the photog tries to convince her to do it now and not after dancing because they will be sweaty and no makeup and wont be at their best. no, not now. I told the photog im pissed and I will now have to setup my gear a 3rd time and im not happy at all. he says. ok, not much we can do.
first break kicks in, family pictures? no. table shots, no. and yes. basically follow them while they walk to the guests at the tables and shoot them as they are. ok, did that.
with two dummy planners working together there was more chaos then without them. I blame them and only them for not being stern enough with the couple and guiding them and sticking by the preset schedule.
end of the night comes and most have left. I see most of the family members not dancing and sitting at the tables. I said two parents and walked over and asked if the other two parents are still there. its happened that the parents leave early sometimes because the dancing at weddings does continue to 2am+ at times. they said yes. I asked how about family pictures...? they said yea why not. like theyre doing me a favor.
So I went to the bphotog and told him im trying to convince them to do the family formals and I told him if they agree, you will help with carrying the umbrellas. because I wanted to take them back to the spot that was nicer and not do it on the dance floor. he says "eh who cares. shoot it with your flash on camera and be done with it. and it fired me up even more. the family doesnt give a S*** and the photog himself doesnt give a S*** to fight to hae it done the best we can.
what pisses me off is that I get so flustered and pissed to fight for them to have great family formals (imo family formals, and ceremony are the most important) and they dont give a crap.so the other photog amongst many others ive worked with have a different attitude. theyre mindset is "if they dont want, who cares. you shouldnt care either" and thats the problem here. seems to be today that its ok to be mediocre. I notice it all the time people try strengthen one another with " its ok to be you. you dont have to be the best or stand out, be who you are, dont be the best" and me having high work ethics cant do the who gives a s*** attitude. im built inside to try and do the best I can. maybe not to be the best but to at least try to do the best I can under the circumstances. and these pros who are supposed to be elite have the who gives a crap attitude.
at the end, I simply bounced two flashes on light stand w/slaves off the ceiling down for a soft blanket of light and used my on camera Sb900 as well bounced up. I shot group shots and was done with it. I was so pissed at the end of the day. the videographer and photog both left before me because they didnt have off camera lights and other gear to put in their bags. I use a lot more gear then them. the other photog shot with 1 camera 16-35 2.8 and 70-200 2.8 the whole wedding. nothing else. I had a wedding when the family came really late. they had a lot of missing family pictures brothers, grandma/pa and others. the videographer says what do you care. you come to get your money and go home. let the photog deal with the headache. so I said to him "Unlike you, I have very high work ethics, youre mediocre is ok mindset is not the same as mine" I dont care abotu the photographers I work for or the couple themselves so much. much more so is the problem for me personally, inside, that I went home and did a kick A** job. im my worst critic. if im not happy, no one will make me happy.
I packed up and when walking out, the family said thank you for everything, goodbye and I nodded and walked out. I didnt say a word didnt shake anyones hand. I had a very sad mood I could not focus on driving at all. all day I think about it.
they invite quality photographers and dont trust them to do whats best for them, no planning, no organizing. they dont allow me to show my talent. I cannot be mediocre and with the eh, who gives a crap attitude and when someone doesnt allow me to work it really brings me down. I go home feeling with this restless feel of no content.